Pain of Moving On

We would always think that moving on is painful, well yes it is. Moving on is part of loving. And loving is part of living. We can always detach ourselves from someone to stop hurting but oftentimes we’re too afraid to do it thinking how to live our lives without him by our side. But regardless of how hard it is to move on, we definitely need to start learning to live our lives and let go of the things that hurt us.

Being alone can be devastating to many of us. But hey, your world doesn't stop there. The world is still turning and hell sure you’ll be able to meet someone destined for you. Though the journey may not be easy, just believe in you and believe in love.

When we got hurt, we lose faith on love, we lose faith in ourselves, we drown ourselves so much in pain and we forget that we’re still worthy of someone. Yes, we have any right to feel this way since it’s really not easy to go through heartache but again, losing someone means having the opportunity to meet someone more deserving and worthy of you.

Remember the movie, A Walk to Remember? I so love this movie. It shows that we should never fail to believe in love. That even it’s impossible to love, they still did. It’s just so sad that Jamie has to die in the movie, but see how Landon managed to continue living even without Jamie? How he continued loving Jamie despite her absence physically? This movie tells us that even if we can’t have or even if we can’t be together with someone we so much love, we just need to believe in love even if we've been hurt or even if we've been left alone. But anyways, let’s go back to the real world.

What I just wanted to share to you guys is that, we cannot avoid the hurt that’s ahead of us once we entertain love. But hurt fades in time and surely time would heal any wound. I’m pretty sure you've already heard of this. But this is true. Even I myself is living and believing with this cliché. Because I know that in the right time, all wounds would heal and we’ll be able to face the world again. In time, we will learn how to deal with love, and basically what we need to learn is that we must love ourselves more than how much we can love others so that if ever it won’t work again, we can still manage to smile and continue living even if it means being alone.

Seriously, we never really don’t have to worry because we’ll definitely find someone perfectly meant for us. It’s just a matter of time. 

How First Sucks

Ever remembered your first crush? Your first date, first kiss, first I love you and the entire first in your life? This entire first in your life can be so unforgettable and memorable. And how about your first heartache and your first baby? Let me tell you my friend’s story.

She met this guy at work whom she never expected to fall in love with. Why? Because he wasn't the ideal man she wants. But weeks later, she felt something towards this guy and her only reason of falling for is because the guy is so caring and thoughtful. He would always accompany her during lunch and dinner, bring her food during work, fetches her after work and spends more time with her. At first she was ignoring the guy knowing the guy is committed to another girl but as months passed, this not-so-cute guy turned to be his ideal man unexpectedly. Simply because of what he’s been showing to her. How thoughtful and sweet he was. Every girl would want a man like that huh?

Months passed and their friendship bloomed to romance as the guy told her that her girl already broke up with him. But Lila my friend was there to comfort and understand him through the break up process and all the pain it left the guy. And so they've decided to be together. They were both so happy in the relationship. They spend so much time together, eat together, and always make everyday memorable.

It was almost their first anniversary they found out she was pregnant. Unprepared but happy to know they’ll be having their baby soon. Lila wasn't actually ready to be pregnant since she’s sick and the doctors told her she could die if she’ll continue the child. But too eager to raise the baby, she didn't think of what may happen to her, she continued the pregnancy even the guy told him not to since it was the doctor’s recommendation. Since then, they fought a lot. They've been fighting because Lila would really want to continue the baby but the guy wont – afraid he would lose her after giving birth.

It’s almost nine months of Lila’s pregnancy when she found out her boyfriend and her ex-girlfriend got back together. Her world almost crashed when she heard about this. She couldn't do anything but cry. She weeps at night, she barely eat. She hid her tears and tried to be strong not for her but for the baby as well. It was just so painful for her since it was her first heartache. And the fact that she’s pregnant, she never expected the guy would cheat on her. She believes things happen for a reason – she just don’t understand what the reason could be. I mean their relationship was quite perfect, they seldom fight, and they loved each other so much. Even I couldn't understand why this had to happen.

Lila who've been in so much pain was brought to the hospital before her due date. She gave birth 2 weeks earlier than the expected delivery date. The guy came to see her and the baby. He was even crying when he talked to her asking for forgiveness. Lila still loves him so much but she thinks it’s better to just end everything so the pain couldn't hurt her deeper.

Until now, they haven’t got back together. Lila wanted the guy to suffer the way she did. She wanted him to realize her worth and that she have all the right to keep her baby away from him if he’s not gonna change. Good thing is, the guy made every single effort he can to show how sorry he is for hurting her.

First heartache really sucks. It can break and make you. We all know it’s not easy and it will never be to go through the healing process after a hurtful heartbreak. All we can do is be strong and learn to love ourselves more than how much we can love others. Though we cannot stop ourselves from loving someone too much, we are still responsible for ourselves.

Love but with limitations even if the person is our ideal man.