Pain of Moving On

We would always think that moving on is painful, well yes it is. Moving on is part of loving. And loving is part of living. We can always detach ourselves from someone to stop hurting but oftentimes we’re too afraid to do it thinking how to live our lives without him by our side. But regardless of how hard it is to move on, we definitely need to start learning to live our lives and let go of the things that hurt us.

Being alone can be devastating to many of us. But hey, your world doesn't stop there. The world is still turning and hell sure you’ll be able to meet someone destined for you. Though the journey may not be easy, just believe in you and believe in love.

When we got hurt, we lose faith on love, we lose faith in ourselves, we drown ourselves so much in pain and we forget that we’re still worthy of someone. Yes, we have any right to feel this way since it’s really not easy to go through heartache but again, losing someone means having the opportunity to meet someone more deserving and worthy of you.

Remember the movie, A Walk to Remember? I so love this movie. It shows that we should never fail to believe in love. That even it’s impossible to love, they still did. It’s just so sad that Jamie has to die in the movie, but see how Landon managed to continue living even without Jamie? How he continued loving Jamie despite her absence physically? This movie tells us that even if we can’t have or even if we can’t be together with someone we so much love, we just need to believe in love even if we've been hurt or even if we've been left alone. But anyways, let’s go back to the real world.

What I just wanted to share to you guys is that, we cannot avoid the hurt that’s ahead of us once we entertain love. But hurt fades in time and surely time would heal any wound. I’m pretty sure you've already heard of this. But this is true. Even I myself is living and believing with this cliché. Because I know that in the right time, all wounds would heal and we’ll be able to face the world again. In time, we will learn how to deal with love, and basically what we need to learn is that we must love ourselves more than how much we can love others so that if ever it won’t work again, we can still manage to smile and continue living even if it means being alone.

Seriously, we never really don’t have to worry because we’ll definitely find someone perfectly meant for us. It’s just a matter of time. 

Does it really matter?

Have you ever tried dating younger men? Was the experience worth it? Well, I’m just kind of curious how it would be to go out with someone younger than you and seeing how people would look at you and even how they would think about you guys.

You know I’ve never been in the situation so it kinda amazes me how women still manages to go out with their boyfriends younger than them. Though it doesn’t really matter for as long as you’re both single, you both feel the same way to each other, and you both know you’re not hurting anyone. After all, love knows no boundaries right? A cliché we always hear when it comes to love and romance.

I just remembered a friend from junior high. She’s such a lovely lady, has a strong charisma, stunning and gorgeous, and to top it off? A professional lawyer from a prestigious law firm. She was a good friend indeed. She helps even when people can’t afford to pay her services. She’s just so amazing that a lot of men admires and courts her. But no one could win her heart.

After a few months of hanging out, we suddenly found out that she’s still into the dating period. And she was seen couple of times dating younger men. And we discovered as well that after hundred of dates she have had, she finally met someone she really liked. Someone younger than her. But is it really a big deal to be seen dating younger men? Sure hell, it wasn’t a bad thing. I mean, it’s her life, it’s her choice and she has the freedom to choose whoever her heart beats for. I just don’t understand how people can oftentimes be cruel to someone they don’t even know. They way people think and look at her once she’s out with her boyfriend, woow.

Can’t this world understand how strange love works? That once you’re struck with someone, even you yourself can no longer hold on to your feelings and you just wanted to let the whole world know how happy and lucky you are to have finally met that person who can stay right next to you in good and in bad times. Course we can’t expect everyone to understand how love can be so mysterious because not everyone had the chance to experience what really is it in “love” that makes two people crazy about each other. The least we can do is understand that when people are in love, they could be so dumb and stupid about it.

Appreciating the Twists of Life

Ever planned being single? No heartaches, no sleepless nights, and no crying yourself to sleep.

Living a single life is fun if that’s what you’re after. There are no limitations and boundaries. You can have all the freedom - to go out at night without worrying someone’s gonna fetch you up while you’re having fun, to wear anything you prefer without thinking “he’s” not gonna like it, too see and flirt with anyone you want. Having a single life gives you as much fun and excitement as you want. You are your priority. Looking beautiful each day isn’t gonna be a problem since no one’s around whom you’ll get conscious when you don’t look pretty at all.

But isn’t it wonderful if after a long day of fun, you’ll come home to someone who can give you more happiness and makes you feel complete? Someone who can be proud of anything you do and anything you wear. Someone who’ll be there to cheer you up when you can’t find happiness outside. And someone who’s gonna love and accept who you are and what you are.

This is the sad truth of having a single life - we can have all the fun we want, but at the end of the day, we’ll still find ourselves wanting to spend our life with someone who can be there for us when the fun’s over.

But, romance isn’t just the sole factor in everyone else’s lives. People can still live happily even if it means being single. We still have our friends and family. And the world is big enough to limit ourselves in the idea that love completes us. It’s just a matter of appreciating things we have and what we don’t have.