My GrownUp Christmas List

Men and women, young or old, we all have our own different wishes every Christmas. Toys, clothes, candies for kids. But for grownups, we already know that this stuff isn’t that important. Merely half of billions of people around the world have the same Christmas wish – and that’s to have a better life, a stable job, a happy relationship with your partner, and a strong family bond.

When we were young, we’re happy to receive toys from our godparents and family. To think it’s enough to make kids happy. Well it is, since kids don’t know yet the meaning of true happiness coz chocolates, candies and toys are enough to make them happy. Though not every child is. Only child from several families would also wish for a longer family bonding, more time to spend with their parents since their parents aren’t always at home and is busy with their professions.

When we grow up, we have a deeper understanding what true happiness is. We can find happiness everywhere but true happiness is hard to find. And I think it’s the most used Christmas wish every year. J I mean who wouldn’t want to feel completely happy, right? Though we can find it from our family, friends and relatives, some of us may still feel incomplete. Especially during holiday season where almost everyone wishes to have that special someone to spend the holidays with.

You might even feel tired hoping and waiting for that special someone you can spend your life with but hey, the world is round and definitely there’s also someone out there waiting for you. Maybe your roads haven’t collided yet but for sure it will.

But love isn’t just the only thing grownup wishes for - though it is like 80% of our wish. Grownups also wish for a stable job, a stronger family and a healthier life. See? Everything’s not about love. ;)

In this chaotic world today, I’m pretty sure there are those hopeful souls who wish to have a better world to live upon. There have been a lot of massacres around the world, youth and mass killings. It’s just so sad to think what could be the life of the next generations will have. And that all we can do is pray and hope for the best for our kids’ future.

In the end, it wouldn’t really matter if our wish came true or not, thing is, we have another year to make our wishes come true, and another chance to find true happiness.

Happy Holidays! J

Find out who you really need!

Looking for a new fling or a serious relationship perhaps? Why not try dating younger men or older men twice your age? You might say like “duh”. But you’ll never know what’s beyond their power of charisma, right?

Most women prefer dating older men because of the thought that they are matured enough especially with serious topics like building a healthy relationship and family in the future that impresses women. Their capability of providing a secure life is a turn on which women can’t deny. Also the reality that they’ve been in too many relationships (if there are), makes them look more responsible and careful each time they choose a partner. But hey, we’re not just talking ‘bout age here. Older men also possess a reputable aura or let’s say, they just know how to carry themselves to catch women’s attention. If they’ve been into a lot of relationships, well, surely they know how to manage their selves regardless of the age they’re carrying.

But other women would prefer dating younger men. Why? I think it’s because younger men are more fun to be with, more adventurous, more experimenting. I don’t mean to say that older men are not - but in terms of age, yes, but in terms of experience and how they do it, both are equal. Thing here is, men regardless of their age, experiences, capability, they all know how to deal with their dates that could turn into a long lasting relationship. The only difference is how they do things in their own way.

So whether you’re looking for a serious relationship, a fling, a date, or purely someone who can be there for you to hang out with, be mindful of what you really want and how you want it. After all, you have all the options you need in this whole wide world. You just need to be wise enough to choose whoever you want to have fun with. Either with old men or young, fat or thin, genius or clumsy, single or not. It all boils down to what would make you happy at the end of the day.

Just don’t forget one thing though - time will come, you surely need to be with someone who can spend the days with you.

Appreciating the Twists of Life

Ever planned being single? No heartaches, no sleepless nights, and no crying yourself to sleep.

Living a single life is fun if that’s what you’re after. There are no limitations and boundaries. You can have all the freedom - to go out at night without worrying someone’s gonna fetch you up while you’re having fun, to wear anything you prefer without thinking “he’s” not gonna like it, too see and flirt with anyone you want. Having a single life gives you as much fun and excitement as you want. You are your priority. Looking beautiful each day isn’t gonna be a problem since no one’s around whom you’ll get conscious when you don’t look pretty at all.

But isn’t it wonderful if after a long day of fun, you’ll come home to someone who can give you more happiness and makes you feel complete? Someone who can be proud of anything you do and anything you wear. Someone who’ll be there to cheer you up when you can’t find happiness outside. And someone who’s gonna love and accept who you are and what you are.

This is the sad truth of having a single life - we can have all the fun we want, but at the end of the day, we’ll still find ourselves wanting to spend our life with someone who can be there for us when the fun’s over.

But, romance isn’t just the sole factor in everyone else’s lives. People can still live happily even if it means being single. We still have our friends and family. And the world is big enough to limit ourselves in the idea that love completes us. It’s just a matter of appreciating things we have and what we don’t have.