Pain of Moving On

We would always think that moving on is painful, well yes it is. Moving on is part of loving. And loving is part of living. We can always detach ourselves from someone to stop hurting but oftentimes we’re too afraid to do it thinking how to live our lives without him by our side. But regardless of how hard it is to move on, we definitely need to start learning to live our lives and let go of the things that hurt us.

Being alone can be devastating to many of us. But hey, your world doesn't stop there. The world is still turning and hell sure you’ll be able to meet someone destined for you. Though the journey may not be easy, just believe in you and believe in love.

When we got hurt, we lose faith on love, we lose faith in ourselves, we drown ourselves so much in pain and we forget that we’re still worthy of someone. Yes, we have any right to feel this way since it’s really not easy to go through heartache but again, losing someone means having the opportunity to meet someone more deserving and worthy of you.

Remember the movie, A Walk to Remember? I so love this movie. It shows that we should never fail to believe in love. That even it’s impossible to love, they still did. It’s just so sad that Jamie has to die in the movie, but see how Landon managed to continue living even without Jamie? How he continued loving Jamie despite her absence physically? This movie tells us that even if we can’t have or even if we can’t be together with someone we so much love, we just need to believe in love even if we've been hurt or even if we've been left alone. But anyways, let’s go back to the real world.

What I just wanted to share to you guys is that, we cannot avoid the hurt that’s ahead of us once we entertain love. But hurt fades in time and surely time would heal any wound. I’m pretty sure you've already heard of this. But this is true. Even I myself is living and believing with this cliché. Because I know that in the right time, all wounds would heal and we’ll be able to face the world again. In time, we will learn how to deal with love, and basically what we need to learn is that we must love ourselves more than how much we can love others so that if ever it won’t work again, we can still manage to smile and continue living even if it means being alone.

Seriously, we never really don’t have to worry because we’ll definitely find someone perfectly meant for us. It’s just a matter of time. 

How First Sucks

Ever remembered your first crush? Your first date, first kiss, first I love you and the entire first in your life? This entire first in your life can be so unforgettable and memorable. And how about your first heartache and your first baby? Let me tell you my friend’s story.

She met this guy at work whom she never expected to fall in love with. Why? Because he wasn't the ideal man she wants. But weeks later, she felt something towards this guy and her only reason of falling for is because the guy is so caring and thoughtful. He would always accompany her during lunch and dinner, bring her food during work, fetches her after work and spends more time with her. At first she was ignoring the guy knowing the guy is committed to another girl but as months passed, this not-so-cute guy turned to be his ideal man unexpectedly. Simply because of what he’s been showing to her. How thoughtful and sweet he was. Every girl would want a man like that huh?

Months passed and their friendship bloomed to romance as the guy told her that her girl already broke up with him. But Lila my friend was there to comfort and understand him through the break up process and all the pain it left the guy. And so they've decided to be together. They were both so happy in the relationship. They spend so much time together, eat together, and always make everyday memorable.

It was almost their first anniversary they found out she was pregnant. Unprepared but happy to know they’ll be having their baby soon. Lila wasn't actually ready to be pregnant since she’s sick and the doctors told her she could die if she’ll continue the child. But too eager to raise the baby, she didn't think of what may happen to her, she continued the pregnancy even the guy told him not to since it was the doctor’s recommendation. Since then, they fought a lot. They've been fighting because Lila would really want to continue the baby but the guy wont – afraid he would lose her after giving birth.

It’s almost nine months of Lila’s pregnancy when she found out her boyfriend and her ex-girlfriend got back together. Her world almost crashed when she heard about this. She couldn't do anything but cry. She weeps at night, she barely eat. She hid her tears and tried to be strong not for her but for the baby as well. It was just so painful for her since it was her first heartache. And the fact that she’s pregnant, she never expected the guy would cheat on her. She believes things happen for a reason – she just don’t understand what the reason could be. I mean their relationship was quite perfect, they seldom fight, and they loved each other so much. Even I couldn't understand why this had to happen.

Lila who've been in so much pain was brought to the hospital before her due date. She gave birth 2 weeks earlier than the expected delivery date. The guy came to see her and the baby. He was even crying when he talked to her asking for forgiveness. Lila still loves him so much but she thinks it’s better to just end everything so the pain couldn't hurt her deeper.

Until now, they haven’t got back together. Lila wanted the guy to suffer the way she did. She wanted him to realize her worth and that she have all the right to keep her baby away from him if he’s not gonna change. Good thing is, the guy made every single effort he can to show how sorry he is for hurting her.

First heartache really sucks. It can break and make you. We all know it’s not easy and it will never be to go through the healing process after a hurtful heartbreak. All we can do is be strong and learn to love ourselves more than how much we can love others. Though we cannot stop ourselves from loving someone too much, we are still responsible for ourselves.

Love but with limitations even if the person is our ideal man.

My GrownUp Christmas List

Men and women, young or old, we all have our own different wishes every Christmas. Toys, clothes, candies for kids. But for grownups, we already know that this stuff isn’t that important. Merely half of billions of people around the world have the same Christmas wish – and that’s to have a better life, a stable job, a happy relationship with your partner, and a strong family bond.

When we were young, we’re happy to receive toys from our godparents and family. To think it’s enough to make kids happy. Well it is, since kids don’t know yet the meaning of true happiness coz chocolates, candies and toys are enough to make them happy. Though not every child is. Only child from several families would also wish for a longer family bonding, more time to spend with their parents since their parents aren’t always at home and is busy with their professions.

When we grow up, we have a deeper understanding what true happiness is. We can find happiness everywhere but true happiness is hard to find. And I think it’s the most used Christmas wish every year. J I mean who wouldn’t want to feel completely happy, right? Though we can find it from our family, friends and relatives, some of us may still feel incomplete. Especially during holiday season where almost everyone wishes to have that special someone to spend the holidays with.

You might even feel tired hoping and waiting for that special someone you can spend your life with but hey, the world is round and definitely there’s also someone out there waiting for you. Maybe your roads haven’t collided yet but for sure it will.

But love isn’t just the only thing grownup wishes for - though it is like 80% of our wish. Grownups also wish for a stable job, a stronger family and a healthier life. See? Everything’s not about love. ;)

In this chaotic world today, I’m pretty sure there are those hopeful souls who wish to have a better world to live upon. There have been a lot of massacres around the world, youth and mass killings. It’s just so sad to think what could be the life of the next generations will have. And that all we can do is pray and hope for the best for our kids’ future.

In the end, it wouldn’t really matter if our wish came true or not, thing is, we have another year to make our wishes come true, and another chance to find true happiness.

Happy Holidays! J

Successful Dating

Have you ever tried dating someone from a different culture or religion?

Nowadays, dating happens everywhere and anywhere – online dating and blind dates. And together with these dating techniques is the fact that you’ll be going to meet different people from different races. Are you ready to date someone with different point of views from you? Different culture, different tradition and different everything.

How about dating a Jewish single? Has the idea ever crossed your mind? Maybe, maybe not. I've actually heard about this newest and hippest Jewish dating site called woojooz.com. Well let’s not just talk about it. It just came out of my mind since I mentioned dating Jewish single. Coz what we’re gonna talk about here really is dating etiquette. Yes you've read it right, dating etiquette - my own version of do’s and don’ts in dating. Five ways to catch someone’s heart and the cliché “first impressions last” would really last.

So sit back, relax and read through the entire blog so you can have the perfect you that will catch perfect someone. Wew, it’s not necessarily perfect since no one is, hmm, ideal works fine.

First, don’t be late – first impressions last. If you’re late on your first date, it will create an impression that you’re not aware of time management which is a turn off especially for guys. Though not everyone is mindful of time that’s wasted, I’m pretty sure you don’t want to waste a minute to finally meet your ideal someone. Course you don’t want to spoil the excitement of first date right?

Second, don’t casually engage in any topic you might end up regretting. Again, first impressions last. It’s great to talk and look witty but just be careful with your words and the ideas you wanna share. The other person might be offended without you knowing it. And hesitates to go on a second date with you!

Third, smile – it’s the sexiest thing you can wear on a date. It also makes you look approachable during your date.

Don’t eat and drink too much – you've definitely prepared for your best look for this wonderful evening and definitely you don’t want to ruin it by a bulging tummy after dinner. J Don’t drink too much either, you both might end up drunk and engage on something beyond your control.

Lastly, be honest. It’s hard to trust a stranger, but let your date feel you are and can be trusted. Its okay to impress your date but don’t be conceited.

If you’re out on a date, just possess an aura that will leave an unforgettable and positive feedback to your date. Leave an impression that would make the guy ask for another date with you. More important thing is, just enjoy the night. It could be the start of something you've been asking for so long so learn how to make it last.

Remember, if you know how to handle your date, you’ll be surely successful in finding your forever. J

When Exceptions Aren't Really ARE Exceptions

When people fall in love unexpectedly, the romance is more thrilling and memorable. But what if enemies turned lovers? Exciting, huh?

Millions of singles searching for love would in any way expect a stranger or a friend perhaps to be their ideal partner. The friendship that blooms after meeting could be the first step in finding out you like a certain person though there is no guarantee that the person will feel the same way for you. But through the wonders of love, everything could be possible – that even enemies can be lovers in the end.

Let me tell you a story about my friend and her guy and how they ended up loving each other.

My best friend in junior year hates one of our friends so much. To think the guy is cute and smart. But they can’t get along well, there’s no single day that passes they won’t fight even on small things, their wants and ideas don’t collide. I mean they can’t just be friends at all. One gloomy day, this guy saw my best friend fell off from the bike while we were on the park. Me, being able to know how they treat each other thought he’ll just laugh at my friend but surprisingly, he came in to hold her and brought her on the bench. Well, it was actually the very first day I saw them laughing together.

Weeks and months passed and they suddenly managed to hang out together without fighting. They even go out without letting us know. Our friends were very surprised what happened with them.

To cut the long story short, while we were having our Christmas Eve party, they told us they’ve been dating for the past few months and decided to be together after this guy confided he really liked her though they’ve been fighting all this time. And yes to tell you guys, they’re still together now celebrating their 5^th year anniversary and will soon get married.

Basically, love doesn’t require two people to like each other for the romance to bloom. We usually take for granted those people who we thought we’d never like and we’d never fall for. But this story of my best friend and her guy inspires me so much that love really works magically. One day you don’t like him, the next day you’re already in love. Though there is no guarantee of not being hurt once you allow yourself to get involved with it, true love proves that nothing is impossible!

So if you’re still doubtful of someone or something, you must first give it a try. Who knows you might just love what’s ahead of you.

Does it really matter?

Have you ever tried dating younger men? Was the experience worth it? Well, I’m just kind of curious how it would be to go out with someone younger than you and seeing how people would look at you and even how they would think about you guys.

You know I’ve never been in the situation so it kinda amazes me how women still manages to go out with their boyfriends younger than them. Though it doesn’t really matter for as long as you’re both single, you both feel the same way to each other, and you both know you’re not hurting anyone. After all, love knows no boundaries right? A cliché we always hear when it comes to love and romance.

I just remembered a friend from junior high. She’s such a lovely lady, has a strong charisma, stunning and gorgeous, and to top it off? A professional lawyer from a prestigious law firm. She was a good friend indeed. She helps even when people can’t afford to pay her services. She’s just so amazing that a lot of men admires and courts her. But no one could win her heart.

After a few months of hanging out, we suddenly found out that she’s still into the dating period. And she was seen couple of times dating younger men. And we discovered as well that after hundred of dates she have had, she finally met someone she really liked. Someone younger than her. But is it really a big deal to be seen dating younger men? Sure hell, it wasn’t a bad thing. I mean, it’s her life, it’s her choice and she has the freedom to choose whoever her heart beats for. I just don’t understand how people can oftentimes be cruel to someone they don’t even know. They way people think and look at her once she’s out with her boyfriend, woow.

Can’t this world understand how strange love works? That once you’re struck with someone, even you yourself can no longer hold on to your feelings and you just wanted to let the whole world know how happy and lucky you are to have finally met that person who can stay right next to you in good and in bad times. Course we can’t expect everyone to understand how love can be so mysterious because not everyone had the chance to experience what really is it in “love” that makes two people crazy about each other. The least we can do is understand that when people are in love, they could be so dumb and stupid about it.

Find out who you really need!

Looking for a new fling or a serious relationship perhaps? Why not try dating younger men or older men twice your age? You might say like “duh”. But you’ll never know what’s beyond their power of charisma, right?

Most women prefer dating older men because of the thought that they are matured enough especially with serious topics like building a healthy relationship and family in the future that impresses women. Their capability of providing a secure life is a turn on which women can’t deny. Also the reality that they’ve been in too many relationships (if there are), makes them look more responsible and careful each time they choose a partner. But hey, we’re not just talking ‘bout age here. Older men also possess a reputable aura or let’s say, they just know how to carry themselves to catch women’s attention. If they’ve been into a lot of relationships, well, surely they know how to manage their selves regardless of the age they’re carrying.

But other women would prefer dating younger men. Why? I think it’s because younger men are more fun to be with, more adventurous, more experimenting. I don’t mean to say that older men are not - but in terms of age, yes, but in terms of experience and how they do it, both are equal. Thing here is, men regardless of their age, experiences, capability, they all know how to deal with their dates that could turn into a long lasting relationship. The only difference is how they do things in their own way.

So whether you’re looking for a serious relationship, a fling, a date, or purely someone who can be there for you to hang out with, be mindful of what you really want and how you want it. After all, you have all the options you need in this whole wide world. You just need to be wise enough to choose whoever you want to have fun with. Either with old men or young, fat or thin, genius or clumsy, single or not. It all boils down to what would make you happy at the end of the day.

Just don’t forget one thing though - time will come, you surely need to be with someone who can spend the days with you.